I am down, and I am back in life.
A friend text me this evening and asked if I wrote that post "Selfish Lover". I said yes. He said that he knew how that felt like, for he, too, was going through the same process. He then asked if there was any advice for such relationship.
I said I did not know any.
The one and only way to make a relationship work, is for those involved in such relationship to really want it to work.
Nothing can really work if there was no heart (sincerity) and effort.
In any relationship, the most that one could do, could only make up to 50% of the total effort, though that might take 100% of one's effort. The other 50% would depend on the other party.
This is why most that are involved in such relationships will constantly feel insecure. When one's effort exceeds the other, there is an imbalance in the give and take of the relationship, tipping the balance over. The one that gives will eventually get tired of giving, and the one that was given will feel the burden of the giver heavier and heavier.
We can never be sure of our partner unless they truly love us.
Loving someone who only loves him or herself is always and will forever be painful.
Please bear the pain if you truly love that person.
For, if you did not give up, there would still be 50% of chance for success.
Good luck, my dear friend. I hope that you will never abandon the love and hope that keep us all moving forward. May love and hope be with you throughout your journey.
